Traci, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for this. I’m sitting in my kitchen sobbing after reading. This past Tuesday would have been my due date, and for the first time I opened up to friends, family, and colleagues with a post about my loss, with an emphasis on how the only thing that’s truly helped an otherwise horrible situation has been opening up to others. I had no idea how many of my friends had been through what I went through since no one talked about it. The response over the past few days has been overwhelming - so many people have reached out, checked in, told me their stories. Does it still hurt? Absolutely. Does it feel better than suffering in silence, alone? ABSOLUTELY.
Alison, you truly made my day. I’m so proud of you for opening up to those closest to you about your experience. I spent so much time suffering alone—just expecting the world to understand, without ever sharing my own story.
I can’t begin to express how many times I went back and forth about whether or not I should publish this. Thank you for making me feel like it was all worth it. I feel like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders.
Thank you for being a part of my community!!
You are incredible and so, so loved. Thank you for sharing your experience. Sending big, big hugs.
Traci!!! I can't tell you how sorry I am that you went through this and that you also suffered through much of it alone. I also can't tell you how validated I feel right now by aspects of your story — I am SO sorry you went through it but I am also grateful that you now feel like you're in a place where you can share because your story has helped me grieve my own and I know you've helped others too. None of this is fair AND you did nothing wrong. But I know how easy it is to feel like you did. Know that you are amazing. Love you sister! xo
Ahhh I just want to send you a BIG hug. You are beautiful and strong. No words. Just want you to know that. I chuckled so hard after reading your palate cleanser post and then now I'm sobbing...thank you for writing about something so personal and raw. So happy I found you 💙
Hey Traci, I’ve thought about this post a lot since I read it yesterday, you’re an excellent writer and your words convey all the emotions that are hard to get out when you try to talk to people about this. I don’t know why we don’t really talk about this because whenever someone is brave enough to bring it up you finally realize you weren’t alone and your friends often share the same experiences and could have helped you through it. Life can be so damn hard sometimes.
Hi! Thank you so much for taking the time to read my work. I think you’re spot on. Once I learned to open up and talk about it, the floodgates of community support truly opened. But dang—it took far too long, suffering in silence, to get to this point. I hope that by normalizing these conversations, we can help others before they feel too far gone.
SO hard. Thanks for the comment — truly means the world to me. Xo
Thank you for sharing your story. You have no idea how many people you can help by doing so. We never know the weight people carry every day. I hope to one day be able to share my own story and struggles. But continue to know that you are not alone. ❤️
Love you, Sarah! Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post. I am so grateful to have supportive and inspiring people like you working beside me every day.
Always here if we need to have a side room chat. But, again, you may have to start requesting co-pays from me! Xo 😘
Traci, this post both moved me & educated me. While I have never miscarried, my identical twin has twice and I have known many women who have gone through it. I never knew the best way to support them and this post does such a beautiful and clear job of explaining what is needed.
Thank you so much for sharing this, I know it will help women feel less alone and help others support women who miscarry. Got me all choked up ❤️❤️❤️❤️.
Thank you for writing this. I’m in awe of your strength and resilience. I to had 2 losses one of which was an ectopic pregnancy along with infertility issues so this really hits home. We do need to talk about these things. It’s important to know we are not alone. ❤️🫶
Ughhhh, my heart!! You are truly amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your story—I can’t even begin to imagine the challenges you’ve faced along the way. I’m beyond grateful to have you as a friend. Sending you the biggest hugs.
Traci, my heart breaks for what you had to go through! I had 3 losses myself and can definitely relate to the feelings you expressed in your post. You are incredibly strong and brave for sharing the details of your story. I admire you so much.
Thank you for taking the time to read this novel of a Substack post. Your support has been pivotal to my healing journey and getting to this point. xo
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<3 you, friend! I’m happy this old school post is getting some traction. Quite possibly my most special one ever. LOVE YA!
It’s very special! I love you
Traci, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for this. I’m sitting in my kitchen sobbing after reading. This past Tuesday would have been my due date, and for the first time I opened up to friends, family, and colleagues with a post about my loss, with an emphasis on how the only thing that’s truly helped an otherwise horrible situation has been opening up to others. I had no idea how many of my friends had been through what I went through since no one talked about it. The response over the past few days has been overwhelming - so many people have reached out, checked in, told me their stories. Does it still hurt? Absolutely. Does it feel better than suffering in silence, alone? ABSOLUTELY.
Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️
Alison, you truly made my day. I’m so proud of you for opening up to those closest to you about your experience. I spent so much time suffering alone—just expecting the world to understand, without ever sharing my own story.
I can’t begin to express how many times I went back and forth about whether or not I should publish this. Thank you for making me feel like it was all worth it. I feel like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders.
Thank you for being a part of my community!!
You are incredible and so, so loved. Thank you for sharing your experience. Sending big, big hugs.
Traci! I found this via the round up. Sending you so much love. 😭
XUE! Thank you my love!! The positivity surrounding this post resurfacing has truly made my entire day!
You are amazing. This made me tear up. Sending you lots of love and wishing you and your family a very happy holidays ❤️
Traci!!! I can't tell you how sorry I am that you went through this and that you also suffered through much of it alone. I also can't tell you how validated I feel right now by aspects of your story — I am SO sorry you went through it but I am also grateful that you now feel like you're in a place where you can share because your story has helped me grieve my own and I know you've helped others too. None of this is fair AND you did nothing wrong. But I know how easy it is to feel like you did. Know that you are amazing. Love you sister! xo
Big big big hugs right back. Xo
Ahhh I just want to send you a BIG hug. You are beautiful and strong. No words. Just want you to know that. I chuckled so hard after reading your palate cleanser post and then now I'm sobbing...thank you for writing about something so personal and raw. So happy I found you 💙
Anaaaaa!! I adore you. 🥰🥰🥰 thank you, friend.
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Wow! What a journey! You are an amazing person. Thanks for sharing your story. ❤️❤️
🥹🥹🥹 thank you soooo much!! Writing this was such an important part of my journey to heal! Xo
Nothing but the biggest hugs for you ♥️♥️♥️♥️
You’re the best. Right back atcha, love ❤️
Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable and opening up about such a heartbreaking loss.
Thank you so much xo
Thank you for sharing your journey. Your writing is so powerful and authentic. Love you Traci. I am so grateful to have you in my life.
Love you tons. Thanks for being part of that community during such a tough time. Your friendship meant and means the world to me!
Hey Traci, I’ve thought about this post a lot since I read it yesterday, you’re an excellent writer and your words convey all the emotions that are hard to get out when you try to talk to people about this. I don’t know why we don’t really talk about this because whenever someone is brave enough to bring it up you finally realize you weren’t alone and your friends often share the same experiences and could have helped you through it. Life can be so damn hard sometimes.
Hi! Thank you so much for taking the time to read my work. I think you’re spot on. Once I learned to open up and talk about it, the floodgates of community support truly opened. But dang—it took far too long, suffering in silence, to get to this point. I hope that by normalizing these conversations, we can help others before they feel too far gone.
SO hard. Thanks for the comment — truly means the world to me. Xo
Thank you for sharing your story. You have no idea how many people you can help by doing so. We never know the weight people carry every day. I hope to one day be able to share my own story and struggles. But continue to know that you are not alone. ❤️
Love you, Sarah! Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post. I am so grateful to have supportive and inspiring people like you working beside me every day.
Always here if we need to have a side room chat. But, again, you may have to start requesting co-pays from me! Xo 😘
Traci, this post both moved me & educated me. While I have never miscarried, my identical twin has twice and I have known many women who have gone through it. I never knew the best way to support them and this post does such a beautiful and clear job of explaining what is needed.
Thank you so much for sharing this, I know it will help women feel less alone and help others support women who miscarry. Got me all choked up ❤️❤️❤️❤️.
Thank you for taking the time to read this essay/novel!! Your sister is so very lucky to have you!! Appreciate your support beyond words. 🫶🏻
You are so strong and so brave for sharing. You’re letting women know they aren’t alone and it’s ok to talk about it. Big hugs.
Thank you for taking the time to read & support my work. I appropriate you beyond words. Love you! Hugs back!!
Thank you for writing this. I’m in awe of your strength and resilience. I to had 2 losses one of which was an ectopic pregnancy along with infertility issues so this really hits home. We do need to talk about these things. It’s important to know we are not alone. ❤️🫶
Ughhhh, my heart!! You are truly amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your story—I can’t even begin to imagine the challenges you’ve faced along the way. I’m beyond grateful to have you as a friend. Sending you the biggest hugs.
You are amazing. This post is amazing. It takes a lot of strength to share.
Thank you!! Love you tons. Thank you for all the support since day 1 xo
Traci, my heart breaks for what you had to go through! I had 3 losses myself and can definitely relate to the feelings you expressed in your post. You are incredibly strong and brave for sharing the details of your story. I admire you so much.
Thank you for the kind words, Therese. You are so incredible yourself, and I truly appreciate you taking the time to read my post.
You, more than anyone, understand why something like this has been such a huge part of my healing process.
Sending you the biggest hugs. I'm always here if you ever want to connect. Your adorable family is so lucky to have you!
I feel the same about you! Right back at ya :)